“I do not think that there is a common reason for why men cheat because everyone is unique, and their situation is unique.
What happens in marriages to cause problems, such as an affair, is that people feel emotionally disconnected from their partner and do not know how to get their needs met in a healthy manner so they look for other ways to fulfill themselves.” Trish Pauls Psychotherapist
26. Men miss being adored, admired, and desired
“Why men cheat is because they lack the very feeling that drew them into the long-term relationship they are in. The feeling of being adored, admired, and desired is the romantic ail that feels so intoxicating.
At around 6-18 months, it is not uncommon for the man to “fall off the pedestal” as reality sets in and life’s challenges become a priority.
People, not just men, by the way, miss this short and intense phase. This feeling, which plays upon self-esteem and early attachment deprivation, counteracts all insecurity and self-doubt.
It gets deeply rooted in the psyche and lives there waiting to be reactivated. While a long-term partner can provide other important feelings, it is nearly impossible to replicate this original insatiable desire.
Temptation in full swing can hit hard, especially when one is not being elevated by his partner on a regular basis.” Katherine Mazza Psychotherapist
27. Men cheat when they feel unacknowledged
“There’s no one single reason why men cheat, but one common thread has to do with feeling unappreciated and not taken care of well enough in the relationship .
Many people feel they’re the one doing most of the work in the relationship and that the work isn’t seen or rewarded.
When we feel like all our effort goes unacknowledged, and we don’t know how to give ourselves the love and admiration we need, we look outside.
A new lover tends to be adoring and focus on all our best qualities, and this delivers the approval we’re desperate for-approval that’s lacking from both our partner and ourselves.” Vicki Botnick Counselor and Psychotherapist
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